Loving A Millenial

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Lord knows I never thought I would SERIOUSLY quote a drake song. But yup, it's happening.

I am sometimes so so ashamed to be apart of this generation. On top of that being African-American and apart of this generation sometimes feels like a double negative. I find myself shaking my head at something almost every day (Sharkiesha? yea I'm still holding onto that.) because we (as young people) go SO hard about how others give us a bad rep and don't take the time to seriously consider the reputation we are giving ourselves. It's so sad.

I honestly thank God everyday for my relationship. We seriously live in a time where people don't even take THAT seriously. It's annoying. The countless attempts I have had from guys trying to get me to cheat on or lie to my boyfriend.... it's amazing. Living in the era of the hook-up. Walk down the street and ask 5 20-something year old's (that's so not a word, I know people) if they are familiar with the term chivalry. It's almost non-existent. I see so many of my female friends settling and it makes me upset. They settle for the "relationship" with no title. They settle for their boyfriend who cheats on them, or hurts them, or isn't even there at all because they find it easier than going through the SLEW of immature guys to find someone who will treat them like a person. And for what? The sake of not being "alone" I suppose. I don't get it. It doesn't seem worth it.

Maybe I'm an old soul. Cause I want that me and you against the world type love. I don't need social media validation type love. Our relationship is private but I'm not a secret type love.

It's hard finding love with a millennial... but I can't imagine settling.

Randoms // Things that Drive My Boyfriend Crazy

First blog post from my ipad! Whoop whoop! =)

My grandma bought a case for me that has the bluetooth keyboard and so far its almost impossible for me to type without having to delete a million times LMAO. Such a small space because its the ipad mini so its even smaller than a netbook keyboard... in my opinion anyway.. But i figure our fingers get used to texting so this is nothing I cant get used to.

My boyfriend and I are in like a weird in between phase in our relationship. I only say weird becuse theres like no organization to it and we're pretty much just winging it but it happens to work for us for the moment so I have no complaints thus far. But anyway I know some people are opposed to couples living together before marriage, but I think its really important. At this point I stay at his place a couple days a week and I think its giving me ample time to get used to things that had I not known, would've probably driven me bat shit crazy if I were thrown into them and couldnt look back. And vice versa, Im learning things that I do that annoy him for example....

• He has this extreme opposition to me air-drying. I like to come out of the shower, and just walk around... I use a towel LOL but the toilet is really only used for decoration cause I wipe like no parts of my body with it. 
• Also shower related, closing the door when I leave the bathroom after I've gotten out the shower. Because the steam never leaves the bathroom *rolls eyes* ... how do you know I wasnt going for the sauna feeling?? I like it toasty in there!
• Getting in bed.. walking right passed the light.. and then asking him to turn the light off... LMAO.. I dont know WHY I do that but his face is priceless EVERY TIME hahaha. (Oops.. sorry baby!! *kisses*)
• And not really house related... but he hates when I turn the light on in the car. He likes to live his life in darkness LOL jk... but the big tree outside his house attracts a lot of bugs... and hes always hot so he always has the friggen window down, thus when I always turn the light on, they cant help but to swarm lol

And these are just things that I've taken a real notice to... or things he's mentioned more than once cause its really driving him crazy LOL... But I have to live with the fact that

• No matter how many times I tell him.. putting the toilet seat down is not a priority lol... He actually said to me one time "You're the one that needs to sit on it so you can put it down"... which is fine during the day but I take many a night pees and I just KNOW im going to fall in one day lol
• HE refrigerates EVERYTHING! Seriously babe.... why is the cinnamon toast crunch in the fridge?? That's just weird
• He'll get in the bed with the same tshirt on that hes had on all day... *shivers*... he drives a lot more than I do but I just shiver to think about all the life that you've touched all day and how its now INSIDE the sheets... stay on your side dirty boy =P
• And... hes just a male in general LOL... so cleanliness is next to... everything... hes pretty clean but kinda disorganized so it makes it look messier than what it actually should.

That boy is my best friend though. I'll still cuddle up next time him in his all day tshirt, eat the cold cereal, and drive him crazy any chance I can. Loves weird like that..... 

What's for Dinner??

Boyfriend and I never very rarely fight. In fact, in our almost 3 years I can't really remember any significant arguments that we've had. We'd be the perfect candidates for the posters of happy young adult relationships. But when it comes to deciding what to eat for dinner, I want to cry every night. We don't live together (yet ^_^), his house is being renovated so there is NO stove, and my grandma still thinks that at 23 if i attempt to cook for more than one person I'll burn the house down. So the nights we do eat dinner together, all we're doing is deciding between an array of garbage to eat! I'M NOT PICKY. Most nights after work and school I'm happy to eat anything so i can go to sleep. But it always becomes much much more difficult.

Him: Babe what do you wanna eat?

Me: It doesn't matter to me really whatever, you have in mind I'm fine with. (god please let him have something in mind)

Him: It doesn't matter to me either, I want to eat whatever you want to eat........

**Minutes usually go by as we both wait for the other person to just say what they want**

Me: Doesn't matter babe just pick something.

Him: BABE! I don't care, I just want to eat! Just tell me what you want to eat.

**insert every four letter expletive you can think of... because now in my head I'm mentally cursing him out LMAO**

Me: OK well its INSERT SOME TIME AFTER 9PM HERE so the only options we have really are A or B... and I'm fine with whichever one.

Him: Do you want to just get Insert something that was neither A nor B here?

Me: *mentally banging my head against the wall, falling out, arms flailing, full on two yr old tantrum* Yea that's fine. 

And that's how we usually decide what's for dinner. He knows what he wants, but he sits me through a 20 minute production... maybe so he can say he asked me and I said I had no preference. IDK lol. But I love him nonetheless. Just pray for us when we actually live together because deciding on food to actually COOK, I don't know if I'm ready for that. LOL

*special thanks to my mom on her indecisiveness and reluctance to choose dinner at her house every night... the conversations between her and my step dad are VERY similar.. except the expletives are probably out loud LMAO*

<3 

Relationships are HARD [[&& 5 Things Friday]]

I have the most amazing boyfriend in THE WORLD. A good partner is hard to come by especially in these days with all the media and sexual brainwashing. We live in a society that praises "big booty hoes" and women with goals, dreams, and ambition have a seat on the back burner. IT is HARD being in a relationship. But so worth it if its something you want!

Thus I come to 5 Things Friday. I've had writers block for THE longest and even though this is a personal blog I found myself at a loss for HOW I wanted to say what I wanted to say. But I'm back in full effect (I think) and I'm starting with:

5 Things It Helps Me to Remember in my Relationship

1. Communicate!

If you can't talk to your partner, it'll never ever work. The good, the bad, the random! It's an amazing feeling to feel like you can pour your heart out to someone. Start with baby steps and make your way up, but it is very very important to have that open line of communication.

2. Being mad is OK.

I'm a firm believer that you can love someone with everything you have and not like them everyday. Some days I'd like to give my boyfriend a good swift kick.... LOL. But going back to #1 its important to talk it out. TALK being the operative word... if you cant communicate without getting upset its OK to take a break and revisit the issue. And it is OK to go to bed angry. Sometimes exhaustion and high emotion don't mix. Sleeping  it off always makes me feel better. And I don't feel guilty about going to bed upset. My boyfriend knows when I'm mad at him, I don't love him any less. Sometimes it helps to just recollect.

3. Privacy is the best policy.

Some of the most well liked celebrity couples, we know nothing about their relationships. Social media is not an outlet for everything. Some aspects of your relationship just do not need to be shared. Females especially have a habit of venting to their friends every time their partner upsets them. When you leave room for other people to give their opinion, they're going to give it. The best thing to do when your mad, is to separate yourself from the situation and do something that is going to make yourself feel better. Then when you're over it and you speak to your partner THEN tell your girlfriends if you MUST. I know there are some times when you just NEED to speak to someone else about the situation but the first person you should speak to is the one involved.

4. Timing is everything. Space is essential

Its important to spend time together, but every waking moment, gets overwhelming. It's really true what they say you have to have time to miss them. As cute as it is to be "always together" everything in moderation. Even married couples need time apart. I'm not saying separate vacations or anything but 24/7. That's asking for you to be clawing each other's eyes out.

5. There are no rules.

Don't let anyone define what your relationship should be like. Everyone is different and what works for some people, doesn't work for everyone. You know your significant other better than ANYONE. What makes you happy, as long as your both healthy, is perfection.


All that being said, these are just things that I look at when I'm thinking about MY relationship. Like I previously stated what works for some might not work for all and there really are NO rules. I've never been big on letting other people define me and lucky for me my boyfriend accepts me all craziness included.

The End ^_^